The habit arises after repeated repetition of the same action – when this action ceases to require volitional and cognitive efforts. Practical psychologist has compiled a list of 5 basic, at first glance, habits that are gradually destroying our lives.
1. The habit of postponing everything for later
Agree, many people tend to constantly postpone something very important or something quite difficult to do – for tomorrow. As a result, it may turn out that a person will find that not everything he has planned he managed to realize.
A person who is characterized by postponing everything for tomorrow, should think about what one day he may find – life passes by. It’s hard to realize, but it’s important to change something. After all, time is the most valuable thing we have.
2. Constant complaints and search for culprits
There are people who are always dissatisfied with everything and, importantly, blame everyone around them for their problems, but not themselves.
Agree, it is much easier for a person to blame his troubles on friends and acquaintances, parents, the state and thus absolve himself of all responsibility for what is happening to him. This position will not lead to anything good.
And communication with such people causes nothing but a feeling of rejection and a desire to get rid of this person and go somewhere faster. Of course, it is difficult to take responsibility for one’s life, but this is exactly what adult conscious people do.
3. The next destructive habit is that some people tend to hide their true feelings
Such people should understand: “You will never be heard if you keep your mouth shut all the time.” Our feelings are our reflection, and not talking about them means not being ourselves. If you remain silent, you will not leave any chance for other people to hear and understand you, because only the heroes of science fiction movies and books can read minds.
4. The habit of enduring to the last
If we hold back our feelings for a long time, we must be prepared for the fact that sooner or later they will spill out. The consequences of this can be very devastating. Therefore, it is much more environmentally friendly not to bring yourself to the boiling point.
This habit can include the accumulation of emotions. For example, there are people who ignore physical pain for a long time and see a doctor only when the pain becomes unbearable. From the doctor in this case you can hear the phrase: “Where have you been before?” To which, as a rule, such people answer that they waited for the pain to subside, the disease to disappear, and so on.
5. The habit of cheating
Many people tend to embellish reality a little to form the best impressions of themselves in the environment. However, it should be understood that sooner or later the truth, as they say, “emerges”. And it can significantly worsen the relationship with the person you admired. In addition, the moment of exposure can put you in an awkward position, which can also significantly affect your self-esteem.
