It is very important for each of us to understand that every second, minute we make one or another choice. Remember that the position of the victim is also a choice made on the basis of certain beliefs. We cannot influence certain events, but we can choose how to react to them.
Practical psychologist emphasizes that it is very important to replace the habit of constantly looking for the culprits in your troubles with the habit of looking for options for solving problems and getting out of the crisis.
For example, instead of asking “Why exactly did this happen to me?”, “Why is this happening to me?” to accept the situation and start searching for an answer to the question “What now?”.
Identify all possible solutions to the problem. This is much more productive than finding the culprits. Although it is up to you to decide whether to stand still or take a step forward. The choice is yours.
“Accept the situation” does not mean completely surrendering to the circumstances, but accepting the fact that you cannot influence some global things, but you can choose how to react to them.
If you have a difficult choice in front of you and you don’t know where to stop, choose what is the most profitable for you at the moment. You can even write down the pros and cons of each option you have identified and make your choice based on this analysis.
Continually shifting responsibility onto others reinforces you in the position of victim. Each of us is the forge of our own happiness. Remember this.
Self-love, understanding your desires and needs and building your own behavior on the basis of this understanding will make you invulnerable and independent of other people’s judgments, opinions, suggestions.
Search for new meanings. Learn to perceive any experience (even very bitter) as an opportunity for your own development and growth. Only you can choose: to take the internal position of the winner or the loser!