Breakups come in many forms—gradual breakups, unexpected breakups—and you may have initiated the breakup. But they all have one thing in common – pain.
At the moment of parting, it seems that the world has stopped, inside there is an immense black hole that absorbs the brightness of life. Relationships are alive, breaking up is like a deep wound. A wound that hurts, burns and takes time to heal.
Accept the pain
When we are with loved ones and feel happiness, warmth, love, the part of the brain responsible for pleasure is activated. The same area is activated when you eat delicious food (that’s why you want ice cream like in Bridget Jones), win a raffle or get a new dream job. Experiencing a loss activates the part of the brain responsible for physical pain. That is why it seems that it actually hurts.
It is completely normal to feel different emotions, it does not mean that there is something wrong with you. The worst thing you can do is deny that you have a hard time. Give yourself time to mourn the past.
Stop looking for past emotions
After parting, we still want past emotions, experiences. You can continue to look at photos, social networks, reread correspondence. But, if you do not have something that connects you (common property, children, animals), it is better to refrain from contact.
Less attention to social networks, more to yourself
Meet with friends, call/visit relatives, go to the museum you’ve been dreaming of for a long time. Think about what you have been putting off for a long time? Now is the time for it.
Study yourself, your reactions, thoughts, experiences
Sometimes the pain goes away faster, but it may take longer for the wounds of the breakup to heal. If the pain of parting is so strong that you cannot move on, contact a psychotherapist, he will help you through this path.