When there is a great shock in life, not only the “taste” of life is lost, but also all the goals and plans that have been set for the future. How to set yourself up to re-plan and set goals, read below.
Life is unpredictable, especially now, so you need to be ready for everything, even for the fact that you have to learn to live anew. War, the loss of a loved one, or just a global emotional upheaval can discourage you from doing anything. If you are currently in this stage, we offer you some practices that will help you feel life again and set goals for the future.
Practice 1: Give yourself the opportunity to live your grief
Give yourself space for grief, for healing. First of all, what will not break you will make you stronger – this is a well-known fact. Take time to share your grief. And although society requires constant movement, take a break. When a person falls, he needs time to heal and get back on track. Trying to “move on” when we are still in pain and feeling lost is not only harmful, but can deepen the experience and make us even more vulnerable.
Give yourself space to grieve, cry, or mourn your loss. We recommend that you write down your darkest feelings. Put your emotions on paper. Talk to your loved ones and share your pain. Spend some time alone. If you work, take a few days of unpaid leave (if you do not have paid leave) to relax and get time out.
Practice 2: Think about important things
You may feel confused because you have lost something important. In these darkest times, think about important things and people. Who or what calmed you down to shock. When hope seems to be lost, remember that you are not alone. If you find it very difficult to think about someone or something, just close your eyes and ask yourself, “What is important to me in this world?” Write down all your answers in a notebook and write until you stop crying.
Practice 3: Think about your future
Only when you are ready, think about your future. Imagine you are standing in front of a big white wall, what would you like to see on it? For example, in a year or 5 years? This can be more than one goal. The main thing is to “paint” this wall with your plans for the future.
Performing this imagination exercise aims to understand what you really want. Identify the direction that interests you. It can be exactly the same as before, or something similar. Or it may be something diametrically opposed to it, it may be completely different.