A psychologist-practitioner in the method of Gestalt therapy, positive psychotherapy, transactional analysis, cognitive-behavioral therapy, talks about how to get out of the state of complete apathy.
When it comes to life or reactive depression – learn to control your thoughts If you tend to “chew” the same thoughts in yourself, to “wind” events, adding to them a catastrophe one after another – start keeping a diary of automatic thoughts.
Every day, when you wake up, you start thinking about something. The moment you start thinking about something, you get sad, for example, and the pictures start to go. There are cases when a person has just woken up, but already feels tired.
Start recording in the diary:
thoughts;
sense;
what you want to do.
Every automatic thought triggers feelings, emotions. Your task is to make your emotions under control. It means learning to understand them, give them a name, and find hidden real needs.
For example, I woke up in the morning, thought about how much work I did, remembered how little I was paid for it, and felt tired and apathetic. What do I want to do – find a new job? Or talk to your boss? Or understand why I stayed so long at this job, etc.?
Learn to talk about yourself and your desires
Taboos on one’s own desires, living for someone, in the name of someone (for children, husband, parents) sooner or later lead to feelings of loss.
Find what you love in your relationship. Find in the usual way of life, in the limits, within the framework of what pleases your heart. Find time for yourself – an hour, a day a week, as much as you can. The main thing is to be closer to yourself than to someone, because the most important person in life is you.
To rest in time means to relax and get pleasure in mind, body, soul, to feel joy in every cell. In this way, the human body can regenerate itself and accumulate resources for further activities.
Do not try to control everything, everyone, including yourself
Control is exhausting because it is impossible to control people’s thoughts and plans, political events and much more. Take care of yourself, your psyche – first of all. Start keeping a diary of automatic thoughts, write down your emotions and feelings in order to look for desires in the whole process. Learn to hear yourself, and then control will be secondary.
If you have experienced a severe shock – lost a loved one, were forced to emigrate, etc., it is better to consult a specialist. Remember, antidepressants only solve the problem for a while.
