Uncertainty, the inability to change “everything at once”, disappointing attempts to immerse yourself in life or return to begin to find new meanings in life. Today this is our reality.
A psychologist and candidate of psychological sciences, says that we get tired of our own emotions, of unsuccessful attempts to control them, or of the fact that we do not feel safe feeling them.
Emotions help us understand our attitude to the events and things that surround us. Sometimes, when a new wave covers us, instinctively our body begins to fight for life. The nervous system independently chooses a strategy to survive and, obscuring consciousness, takes the control panel. But sometimes a new wave does not let us go. It offers an escape, a renunciation of what really worried you.
Feelings that are woven from conscious emotions and life experiences help us get back on our feet, determine our behavior and influence the beliefs with which we motivate ourselves.
Emotions are not good or bad, positive or negative, fair or not. They are part of us, and trying to subdue them hard is like trying to conquer the ocean. It is from these attempts that we get tired more.
Try the following steps:
1. Help yourself to better understand your emotions by naming them. When you can name something (give it a “real name”), then you can talk about it. When you start talking about it, then you can act accordingly.
2. Find ways to identify emotions and talk about them, even if they are not yours. It can be useful to get to know other people, and it will help them better understand their own “ocean”.
3. Start using simple strategies for emotions: take a deep breath and inhale, express them in art or a favorite thing, ask for help.
4. Don’t forget to praise yourself when you talk about your emotions (even if you don’t really like the emotions you mentioned).
5. Some emotions are really difficult to understand, and there may be times when you do not want to hear and talk about them. In such cases, even note that you started this conversation with yourself, and promise yourself to think about them later.
6. Remember that it is not life circumstances or people that make us feel certain emotions or feelings, but ourselves, or rather our nervous system.